Once a lady is brought up without her
parents inculcating the virtues of discipline
and hardwork in her, just any one will
climb her, so long as she will get money
from the escapade. But it goes beyond that.
From the times of old, the kingdom of love
suffereth emotional violence and only
sharp babes take it by force. A new
marriage culture seems to be taking place
in Nigeria. It has been discovered that
younger women preferred marrying older
men who are advanced enough to be their
fathers and this virus is catching on fast.
When the late Owelle of Onitsha and first
President of the Federal Republic of
Nigeria, Dr Nnamdi Azikiwe, in his late
ages declared his intention to then marry
his youngest wife, Uche, a member of the
renowned Afikpo traditional dance named
'Nkwa Nwite' which entertained him when
he visited Afikpo, Nigerians cried blue.
Reason was because of the age difference.
Zik was then in his 70s while Uche was
barely 16 years. The marriage took place
and today, the rest they say is history.
In 1989, it was publicized that Bianca
Odumegwu-Ojukwu was dating the late
former Biafran Head of State and Ikemba
of Nnewi Chukwuemeka Odumegwu
Ojukwu, a political associate of her father.
Ojukwu who was alleged to be over thirty
years her age later married her. By early
1990s, Bianca Onoh, became Bianca
Odumegwu-Ojukwu.
Not done, Shade married business mogul
Okoya Thomas when she was 18 years in
2002. Later, there were reports that ex-
beauty queen; Susan Hart is 'reportedly'
married to Chief Sunny Kuku.
72-year-old Nigerian billionaire, Emmanuel
Iwuanyanwu, a politician, statesman and
Chairman of the Champion Newspaper,
created controversy after getting married
to a girl almost 50 years his junior and tied
the proverbial nuptial knot with 26-year-
old Frances Chinonyerem Enwerem in a
traditional ceremony that took place in
Owerri, Imo State, Capital. The wedding
comes two years after Iwuanyanwu, lost
his wife Eudora Iwuanyanwu, to cancer.
Frances is reported to be the daughter of
one of Iwuanyanwu's late wife's close
friends.
Trailing behind Iwuanyanwu in this new
marriage culture is Emeka Offor,
businessman and a contractor from
Anambra State. Ofor reported to be in his
sixties secretly took another wife. He
performed the traditional rite for the
marriage of a 24-year old girl as the fourth
wife. The ceremony took place at the
residence of the father of the bride,
Alexander Okey Ufondu, at Umuezeopi in
Oraifite, Ekwusigo Local Government Area
of Anambra State. The bride named
Adaora lives with his husband in the
highbrow district of Maitama in Nigeria's
Federal Capital Territory of Abuja.The
wedding generated ripples in the religious
communities of Oraifite, the hometown of
both Mr Offor and his new father in law,
Mr Ufondu, an Onitsha-based trader.
Why are young women marrying older
men who are old enough to be their
Fathers age mates? Lailas Blog spoke with
Nigerians of diverse persuasion and their
responses are detailed below:
Onyanwe Aku Uche attributes it to poverty.
According to the student of Abia State
University, it's money and status only.
Uche is of the view that such marriages
lead to adultery and promiscuousness
because, he believes that the old men
cannot be able to s*xually perform their
bed responsibilities.
According to him, no marriage survives
without s*x even though they enjoy such
marriages, the girls are accused of
pretending in such marriages.
"This is strictly for the money, does she
want to call it love? Why will the children
support such a marriage? Marriage
counsels said such marriages doesn't last
because the death of the man nullifies such
marriages and the young girl would now
go and marry the young ones they love
with the late old man's money.
Oluokun Stephen stated that all the essence
is for money, status and security. When
there is money, women will marry
anything inside trouser, it is obvious that
such girls will be getting s*x elsewhere."
But a lady disagrees.
Anna Unachukwu: "We unfortunately
want to create a kind of civilization that
has no basis for rationality, and who told
you that old men cannot have s*x? Is she
complaining that her man cannot satisfy
her s*xually? You forget that men's urge
for s*x still lives with them even when they
are eighty but it is not the same for women
when she reaches menopause.
Have you ever slept with an old man and
found him incompetent? Many ladies who
marry people not old enough to be their
fathers still go in the closet to use dildos
and Romance-Machines. Is your
understanding of marriage only based on
s*x? Where is companionship?"
Sociologist, Chinedu Ukwu blamed Nigeria
economy for such marriage. He was of the
view that if the nation's economy should
improve where the girls could get job and
take care of themselves, most of the older
men would be rejected when they
approach most of these girls for marriage.
Another funny angle tongue
Clare Okpala said that it serves the old men
right. She said that such girls are on
revenge mission to what some boys have
done to their older female lovers. She said
that the young ladies perch on the oldies
for their money and would dump them
when they have gotten what they want.
"Serves the older perverts right, for
marrying women young enough to be their
daughters/ granddaughters."
Ladies, should you marry on right
priorities or simply because of money and
greed? There are consequences for
whatever option you chose; both good and
bad. The ball is on your court.
#FreeIceBox
