On one of the most beautiful days of your lives together, your parents are perhaps the happiest people and they certainly know how to show their emotions affectionately throughout the events. After the entire hullabaloo, one will expect that the marriage will be smooth, spooky, happily ever after but suddenly, your mother-in-law steps in and my guess is as good as yours.
According to research, 60 per cent of all marriages suffer some setbacks from mothers-in-law, who may be contending with the son’s wife or the daughter's husband and therefore finding it difficult to let go. The good news is this; you can manage the situation and also pull through given the right attitude and a positive commitment towards the success of your marriage.
Keep an open-mind
Uncertainty can breed negativity and unrealistic assumptions about the character of your mother-in-law. It is important to keep an open mind right from the start as in doing so; you are able to maintain a mutual relationship with her as well as remain positive regardless of her own feelings towards you.
Respect her views
Most times, the other woman in a husand's life or a wife's life is his/her mother and yours is no exception.
As a wife, to foster a good relationship with your mother-in-law, you must first acknowledge her role in her son’s life and perhaps your marriage. Her opinions towards your marriage and family issues must be respected for peace to reign even if you decide to discard them when she leaves. It is imperative to give her all the respect that is due to her; if not for anything but for granting you the privilege to marry her son. Yes it's a privilege and you too will grant a lady that privilege to marry your son in future.
Value their relationship
Do not become apprehensive as a result of your spouse’s relationship with his mother, you must value their relationship and discover the joy that bonds them together as mother and son. If your mother-in-law is a single parent who has worked so hard to raise her son up alone, she is more likely to worry about him and the changes ahead.
It is often difficult for some mothers-in-law to let go after spending many years nurturing their sons, the bond is often difficult to separate.
It may also be difficult to wane your spouse off his mother’s principles even after the marriage but with your love and commitment to your marriage, you can learn to value and appreciate their relationship and begin to enjoy the love your husband has for you without any hindrance.
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